Do’s for Visiting Your Loved One:
- Respect the resident’s privacy. This includes knocking before you enter the room and stepping out into the hall when personal care is being provided.
- Be warm in interacting with your loved one. Smile frequently and use therapeutic touch unless the person specifically does not want to be touched.
- Keep the conversation positive and refrain from arguing.
Don’ts for Visiting Your Loved One:
- Don’t take unruly pets or children to visit. If the children are well behaved, however, they can provide extra pleasure to the patient. Take a pet if the person enjoys it, but check with the facility first to find out if they have a policy about pet visits.
- Don’t wake up residents who are sleeping.
- Don’t take food or beverages your loved one isn’t allowed to have. Check with the staff first if you have any questions about what’s permissible.
- Don’t have large groups of family and/or friends visit at the same time. This may overwhelm residents or make them anxious. How many visitors are too many? This will be different for every resident. Observe your loved one’s mood and try to determine if there are too many people visiting.
- Don’t stay too long. It may tire your loved one and interfere with the staff’s provision of needed care. How long is too long? That depends. Again, it is different for every resident. Look for cues that your loved one may be getting tired or stressed out.
- Do not interrupt the resident’s activity time. Find out from the staff when activities are scheduled. It may be acceptable to sit beside them and just observe unless your presence distracts them from the activity.