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Sometimes We Suffer More Than the Person With Alzheimer’s

November 21st, 2014

Once Ed was moved to a new room at his nursing home. I went out to visit him to see how he was adjusting.  “I want to go home,” Ed kept repeating plaintively to me and everyone who passed by. I felt faint and terribly guilty. I felt as though I’d ripped him away from[…]

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Life After Alzheimer’s

November 14th, 2014

Here’s my story of life after Alzheimer’s. Two weeks after Ed died, I was offered the dream job I’d interviewed for in Kansas City. My new life was tremendously challenging and took my mind off my loss as much as anything could. When I arrived in Kansas City and moved into the house I’d rented,[…]

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3 Tips for Surviving Alzheimer’s Caregiving

November 7th, 2014

I want to share with you the events and situations that helped me cope, hoping they may help you as well. I Kept a Journal I chronicled my visits to Ed, his gradual decline, my feelings, and my day to day activities. It gave me a way to document my caregiving journey and to remember[…]

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Overcoming Denial When a Loved One Shows Signs of Alzheimer’s

October 31st, 2014

Alzheimer’s is, above all, an insidious disease. Its symptoms often begin so mildly and progress so slowly that it’s easy for friends and loved ones to deny them until one day there’s a ‘defining incident;’ an incident so bizarre that not even the spouse, child or other loved one can ignore it or explain it[…]

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Alzheimer’s and Humor: An Alzheimer’s Patient’s Funny Trick

October 24th, 2014

After finishing each meal at the Alois Center, Ed would always clean his spoon with a napkin, wrap it in another napkin, put it in the breast pocket of his sport coat and take it back to his room. He knew very well he shouldn’t be stealing those spoons. Pretty soon his room would have[…]

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A Special Concert in Ed’s Room

October 17th, 2014

“Please wear a tux,” I said over the phone to the classical violinist I was hiring to play a special concert for Ed in his room. As I was talking to Don to make the arrangements, I described Ed’s dementia, adding that he had been a college professor who loved classical music. When Don arrived[…]

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Attending a Support Group Could Improve Your Quality of Life

October 7th, 2014

What Is a Support Group? A support group is a regular meeting of people with the same illness or life situation (such as being a caregiver). Support Group Formats: Some groups are structured and educational, bringing in speakers; in others the primary purpose is for members to share their feelings and experiences as well as[…]

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One Man’s Descent Into Alzheimer’s – Does Any of This Sound Familiar?

September 30th, 2014

The Beginning of Ed’s Long Journey Downward  Ed was my beloved Romanian life partner of 30 years. Today my mind flashed back to the first months of 2000, when his dementia began to become more prominent. For example, I did all of his grocery shopping. When I suggested some items to buy for him at[…]

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How to Visit a Friend With Alzheimer’s

September 23rd, 2014

Family members or other very close loved ones who are accustomed to visiting may have a set routine and may have learned some or all of the tips below. But if you’re a friend visiting for the first time, or if you don’t visit the person very often, you may feel awkward and not know[…]

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The Joys of Visiting People With Alzheimer’s

September 16th, 2014

After retiring last Spring I’d decided to volunteer to visit a few people at a local memory care facility. I got the idea from my dogs’ veterinarian, Ann McHugh, DVM, who volunteers to visit people in a hospice care facility. Ann told me it was rewarding, and I’d heard the same thing from other friends[…]

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