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A Hug Says It All – 5 Reasons to Hug Your Loved One as Often as Possible

April 9th, 2015

Virgina Satir, quoted in an article by Toni Agnesi, once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” If we need that many hugs just think how many a person with Alzheimer’s must need. Agnesi writes, “Hugs make[…]

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A Smile Can Change Everything

April 2nd, 2015

Effects on the Person Smiling Smiling has been found to have beneficial effects on the person who is smiling. According to an article on the Live Strong website, “A study conducted by the British Dental Health Foundation showed the act of smiling to dramatically improve one’s mood.” Another study, conducted by Dr. David Beales, co-author[…]

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Why I Volunteer to Visit People With Alzheimer’s

March 18th, 2015

I had just returned home from my weekly visiting and was sitting lost in thought. Lost in the memory of my just-completed visit to Ruth (not her real name). She was quite confused that day. She told me that she had tried to rent an apartment that she liked very much, but before she could[…]

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Don’t Ask Who, What, When, Where, Why or How

March 11th, 2015

When talking with a person who has Alzheimer’s it’s best to avoid questions whose answers are too specific (who, what, where, or when) and also avoid ones whose answers are too complicated (why or how). For example if you ask, “Did your daughter visit you this week?” your loved one may not remember. They may[…]

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10 Tips for Nonverbal Communication

March 4th, 2015

Don’t Talk From Behind Them: Despite your best efforts you may sometimes forget this one, as described above. Make Eye Contact: This tip is related to the one above. If you’re standing behind the person you can’t make eye contact. Be at Their Level: If both you and they are standing that’s fine. But if[…]

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The Funniest Book Review Ever!

February 25th, 2015

The following review of my book (Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer’s and Joy) by Craig Thomas is the funniest one I’ve ever received: “Once I started, there was absolutely no way to stop reading this book until its final page. The house is a mess and I don’t care! Brava!”  

How to Survive as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

February 17th, 2015

How did I cope as an Alzheimer’s caregiver? How indeed. I had no idea how to survive the following years, but little by little I discovered things that helped tremendously. I want to share with you the events and situations that saved me, hoping they may help you as well. I Got Help From the[…]

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How to Behave When Visiting a Nursing Home

February 10th, 2015

Do’s for Visiting Your Loved One: Respect the resident’s privacy. This includes knocking before you enter the room and stepping out into the hall when personal care is being provided.  Be warm in interacting with your loved one. Smile frequently and use therapeutic touch unless the person specifically does not want to be touched.  Keep[…]

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End-of-Life Healthcare Decisions

February 3rd, 2015

CPR: Doing CPR on an elderly, debilitated patient with a terminal illness may do more harm than good. Risks include broken ribs, collapsed lungs, brain damage, and permanent need for a ventilator. The chance that it would return the patient to his or her former quality of life is practically nil. If you decide you[…]

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Breaking the News When It’s Alzheimer’s

January 27th, 2015

 Why Informing Others Is Important: When a person is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s it is usually very difficult to decide whether or not to make the diagnosis public, but there are many advantages to doing so. One is that it will help others be more understanding and compassionate with the diagnosed person. In addition, revealing the[…]

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