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How to Survive as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

February 17th, 2015

How did I cope as an Alzheimer’s caregiver? How indeed. I had no idea how to survive the following years, but little by little I discovered things that helped tremendously. I want to share with you the events and situations that saved me, hoping they may help you as well. I Got Help From the[…]

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How to Behave When Visiting a Nursing Home

February 10th, 2015

Do’s for Visiting Your Loved One: Respect the resident’s privacy. This includes knocking before you enter the room and stepping out into the hall when personal care is being provided.  Be warm in interacting with your loved one. Smile frequently and use therapeutic touch unless the person specifically does not want to be touched.  Keep[…]

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End-of-Life Healthcare Decisions

February 3rd, 2015

CPR: Doing CPR on an elderly, debilitated patient with a terminal illness may do more harm than good. Risks include broken ribs, collapsed lungs, brain damage, and permanent need for a ventilator. The chance that it would return the patient to his or her former quality of life is practically nil. If you decide you[…]

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Breaking the News When It’s Alzheimer’s

January 27th, 2015

 Why Informing Others Is Important: When a person is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s it is usually very difficult to decide whether or not to make the diagnosis public, but there are many advantages to doing so. One is that it will help others be more understanding and compassionate with the diagnosed person. In addition, revealing the[…]

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3 Things Alzheimer’s Caregivers Should Never Do

January 20th, 2015

Don’t Be in Denial When a loved one shows signs of dementia it’s painful to acknowledge it. It’s common for their friends and loved ones to be in denial. It’s easy to ignore the symptoms, make excuses for the person, or push the symptoms to the back of your mind. The problem with denial is[…]

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10 More Tips for Visiting People With Alzheimer’s

January 13th, 2015

Here are 10 more tips for visiting people with Alzheimer’s: Make eye contact Only ask one question at a time Talk about the old days more than recent information Do not correct or argue with the person Use their name frequently while talking Don’t visit if you find they already have a visitor; wait until[…]

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10 Tips for Visiting a Person With Alzheimer’s

January 9th, 2015

Introduction: Many people simply don’t know how to interact with or entertain people who have Alzheimer’s. The following tips will help you improve the quality of your visits. With a little thought and visiting experience you may come up with more tips yourself. In my next post I’ll publish 10 more tips. Speak Slowly and[…]

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Writing Poetry With a Person Who Has Alzheimer’s

January 2nd, 2015

I volunteer to visit some ladies with Alzheimer’s at a local memory care facility. One of “My Ladies” is Ruth. One day when I was visiting Ruth I got the idea of writing some poems together. I decided we’d write happy poems. I decided to simply start off by saying what I thought would be[…]

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People With Alzheimer’s Can Be Stumped by the Simplest Things

December 26th, 2014

People with Alzheimer’s may have great difficulty figuring out the simplest activities. The following story illustrates that poignantly. One day at the end of my visit to Ed, he accompanied me to the front door. When we reached the door we went through our usual leave-taking, saying good-bye repeatedly and blowing kisses to each other.[…]

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15 Tips for Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

December 19th, 2014

Become an educated caregiver: Some useful sites for educating yourself are the Alzheimer’s Association and the Alzheimer’s Reading Room. Also, attend any caregiving seminars presented in your community. Ask for help – and accept it: Don’t be too proud to ask for help. Getting help can make a major difference in your life. Take care[…]

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