The Beginning of Ed’s Long Journey Downward
Ed was my beloved Romanian life partner of 30 years. Today my mind flashed back to the first months of 2000, when his dementia began to become more prominent.
For example, I did all of his grocery shopping. When I suggested some items to buy for him at Krogers, he didn’t recognize several of his very favorite foods. He didn’t even remember Starbucks, which was the only coffee he had used for years.
I mentioned to him that he should put the coffee in the freezer (as he always did) and he asked me where the freezer was. When I told him it was in the kitchen, he didn’t remember what a kitchen was.
I said, “You know, where your stove is.”
“My stove? What is a stove? Do I have a stove?”
I continued, “Yes, where you cook your food.” That didn’t help.
He called me back a little later. He said that he had found his kitchen, but that there were only clothes and shoes in it.
The Continuation of Ed’s Decline
Beginning in June of 2005, I kept detailed records of Ed’s continuing decline:
June 1: Ed has always taken great pride in his appearance but came to the door to receive expected guests when he did not have his dentures in. The most amazing thing was that he didn’t even seem to care.
June 3:Couldn’t remember how to operate the TV.
June 10:Called me to confirm his phone number, which has been the same for 40 years.
June 12: Couldn’t remember where he keeps his clothes.
June 15:Was terribly distressed because he couldn’t find his pants, which were on the bed right beside him.
And it only got worse as time went by.